There have been several instances where the old me would have been triggered, but the new me had a completely different reaction.ย For example, last week someone in my family broke down, went crazy and screamed at me (on the surface, their issue, not mine).ย The old me from several years ago would have cried like crazy and sunk into a deep depression for days, thinking they didnโt love me, but the new me just sat there and let all of the harsh words roll right off me.ย The new me could see that they were severely stressed and lashing out for no apparent reason.ย While it is not okay to scream at someone, I noticed that I did not take it personally. It was like I was watching a movie.ย Yes, I could hear the bad words but the negativity did not penetrate.ย I didnโt even have to try and deflect, I was just a pillar of calm in the middle of the storm. โ*ย